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Umxholo

• Ukulawula abantu
• Ukukhuliswa komntwana
• Izilungiso onokuzenza
• Abantu abalawulwayo
• Ukukhuliswa komntwana
• Izilungiso onokuzenza

Siyabazi abantu abanyanzelayo nabalawulayo kunye nabanye abantu abathintelweyo nabalawulwa. Ithetha ntoni le mibhalo? Abantu babenza njani ubuntu obunjalo? Ngaba aba bantu banxulumene ngandlela thile? Uhlobo ngalunye lomntu lunokuthatha njani amanyathelo okulungisa?

Ukulawula abantu

Kubantu abanjalo, ukulawula kuthetha ukongamela abanye ngendlela engathandekiyo, engaphaya kwengqondo. Abantu abanjalo banokunyanzela, babe nobukhosi kwaye babaphathe gadalala. Bafuna izinto ngenkani kwabanye, "Ndifuna wenze oku, ngoku." Ukuba abanye abathobeli, umntu olawulayo uba nomsindo kwaye angaphindezela, ade athethe gadalala okanye aphathe gadalala.

Umntu olawulayo uxhomekeke kwabanye abantu ukuze baphumeze iminqweno yakhe. Rhoqo, abantu abalawulayo abanako ukuzeyisa. Balindele ukuba abanye babanike ulawulo kubo. Ubungcali babo kukuyalela, hayi ekwenzeni. Eli nyathelo lilonke lokuyalela abanye yingqikelelo kwabanye kulawulo lomsebenzi.

Ukukhuliswa komntwana

Ukulawula abantu kuba njani kule ndlela iyiyo? Kwincwadi yethu, Ukuphila ngokuzenzekelayo , UGqr Martin kunye nam sichaza ngokweenkcukacha ubuntwana bobabini bokulawula nokulawula. Ngamafutshane, safumanisa ukuba abantu abalawulayo bafunda ukuba abanye abantu babakhathalele imisebenzi ngenxa yoko akufuneki bayenze okanye bacinge ngayo. Abazali babo babenza ukuba babakhathalele ngokukhawuleza kuyo yonke into abayifunayo. Akukho mfuneko yokuba babuze okanye balile ngaphambi kokuba umntu omdala azalisekise iimfuno zabo. Abafundi nto malunga nendlela yokujongana nokudakumba kwaye abafundi malunga nokhathalelo lweemfuno zabo ngokwabo. Umntu uhlala ekhona ukuze athathe amanyathelo. Ukuba umntu akabenzeli into abayinqwenelayo, bakhulisa iindlela zokunyanzelisa ukuthanda kwabo kwabanye.

Ukuqhubela phambili ngexesha lokuba mdala, sinokubona ukuba imeko yabo ihleli ifana nasebuntwaneni. Aba bantu badala baziphethe kakuhle ngokuyalela abanye ukuba bakhathalele izinto. Ukuxhalaba kubonakala xa bengakwazi ukwenza abanye ukuba benze ngendlela abalindele ngayo. Xa bexhalabile kwaye bekhathazekile, bayazinyusa iimfuno zabo.

Izilungiso onokuzenza

1. Yenza okungakumbi kuwe. Ukuba wenza uvavanyo oluthile lokuzihlola ngendlela yokuzazisa ngawe, unokuqonda ukuba ungumntu olawulayo. Unokwazi ukunciphisa ukuthambekela kolawulo lwakho ngokuxabisa ungazenzela ngakumbi kunokuba ucinga. Abanye akufuneki basoloko bekwenzela izinto.

2. Cela igalelo. Nciphisa indlela oqala ngayo xa uthetha nabanye. Yazi ngakumbi ukuba kukho abantu ababini abanezimvo kunye nezimvo kunxibelelwano ngalunye nomnye umntu. Buza izimvo zabo malunga nendlela yokwenza okanye ukuphatha into. Emva koko, ngegalelo labo, thatha isigqibo sokuba ngubani na oya kuthi enze kakuhle ekufuneka kwenziwe, wena okanye yena, okanye nobabini.

Abantu abalawulwayo

Aba bantu banyanzelekile kwiimvakalelo zabo, kwiingcinga, nakwizenzo. Bayazibamba, bathintele, kwaye bazibhotile ngokwabo, ukutshintsha izimvo, isenzo kunye neempendulo kwabanye abantu. Ngamanye amaxesha baneentloni kwaye babonakala ngathi bane-mousy okanye bathintelwe.

Abantu kufuneka balungelane ngandlela thile ukwenza ubudlelwane phakathi kwabo. Abantu abalawulwayo bagqwesa ekubambeni "ulawulo" olucetywayo ngokulawula abantu. Abantu abalawulwa kakuhle babalasele ekugcineni ukuzeyisa. Kananjalo, bayakholelwa ukuba banokulawula izinto zomnye umntu.

Ukukhuliswa komntwana

Njengabantwana, kwakulindelwe lukhulu kubo. Amaxesha amaninzi oku kwakuthetha ukuba bazakwenza izinto ngokwabo, ukuthintela iimfuno zabo kunye neemvakalelo kwaye bangalindeli uncedo kwabanye Ngokufuthi, benqatshelwa uncedo ngabanye. Bekulindeleke ukuba balawule iimvakalelo, iintshukumo, kunye nezicelo zabanye. Aba abanye yayingabantu abalawulayo, umzali, umntakwabo, okanye esinye isihlobo.

Ukuqhubela phambili ngexesha lokuba mdala, indima abayidlalayo iyaqhubeka nayo. Banyanzelekile kwaye bayaphendula kulawulo lwabantu, belindele ukuba banokwenza into efunekayo kwabanye ngelixa bezinyanzela iimfuno zabo.

Ukuxhalaba kuvela xa boyisiwe ngokungakwazi ukwanelisa ukufuna abanye. Olu xinzelelo lubangela ukuba bazame kwakhona, nzima. Bayaphela kukudinwa. Emva koko baziva bengonwabanga ngokwabo ngokusilela ukwenza umsebenzi ongenakwenzeka wokulawula into yomnye umntu.

Izilungiso onokuzenza

Ngokuzijonga kakuhle, unokuyiqonda ukuba ungumntu olawulwa kakuhle.

1. Khulula ibhanti lakho lolawulo. Zincede ngokuqonda ukuba ungaphulukana nolawulo oluthile ngokunciphisa ukuzibamba. Yithi hayi kwabanye abafuna ukuba ubenzele kakhulu.
2. Nika igalelo kwabanye. Nika abanye iingcinga zakho nezimvo zakho. Sukuzibopha ngamehlo iimvakalelo zakho ngalo lonke ixesha. Xelela abanye xa ukhathazekile, unexhala, okanye unomsindo kwaye kutheni, ngakumbi ukuba badlala indima.

Ungaphazamisa umdaniso we-pathological owenziwe ngokulawula nokulawula abantu. Ngomzamo, zombini ezi ntlobo zobuntu zinokushenxisa kulawulo lwazo lwezifo ziye kubomi obuphuculweyo.