Ndazi Njani Ukuba Ubuhlobo bethu buphelile?

Kule veki iphelileyo ndifumene le imeyile ilandelayo:

"Mna nesithandwa sam siye sahlala kunye ixesha elingaphezulu konyaka ngoku. Abahlobo abasenyongweni abathathu. Saqala ukuhlala kunye. Ukusukela ngoko siye sahlala siqikelele kwaye ngesiquphe ngolunye usuku bendisoyika ukuba ndiphelelwe luthando kwaye Ukuphulukana nemincili kuye / kuthi. Ndisokola nexhala, ke ndiyoyika oku ukunditya kwaye kundenze ndikholwe ukuba kuphelile. Ingaba kunjalo? "

Ndiwuphendulile lo mbuzo kwakanye ngaphambili, amava angenakuphepheka kodwa ayothusayo ophela kobudlelwane phakathi komtshato. Kodwa kweso sithuba, ndiye ndasebenza ngemeta ngakumbi okanye ngokwasemoyeni. Ngeli xesha bendicinga ukuba ndiza kuwuphendula lo mbuzo mnye ngendlela ebonakalayo kunye nokusebenza.

Othandekayo uRebecca (ayilogama lokwenyani):

Umbuzo wakho ubangela intwana entliziyweni yam kuba ndiyaluva uvalo kunye noloyiko kuyo, nalo lonke unxunguphalo kunye noloyiko. Makhe ndizame ukuphendula umbuzo wakho ngokucacileyo kangangoko ndinako.

Okokuqala, iindaba ezimbi: Oko kukhululeka kunye nokuhamba kunye nolonwabo oluzive kunye kunye nolunikhuthazileyo ukuba nihlale kunye-kusenokwenzeka ukuba sele idlulile, ubuncinci ngendlela obukade unamava ngayo. Ndiyathandabuza uya kuba nakho ukuyiphinda le mvakalelo yomlingo ifuna ukubakho phambi komnye nomnye ukuze uzive unxilile kwaye uphelele, ukonwabela ukonwaba kwakho nokuba unokwanela. Uza kufumana, njengabantu abaninzi abatshatileyo phambi kwakho, ukuba awukhuselekanga ngomlingo kuzo zonke ezinye izibini emhlabeni ekufuneka ulwe nazo: isithukuthezi kunye nenzondo nokuthathelana kude, kwaye malunga nayo yonke eminye imiba Uqinisekile ukuba ngekhe yenzeke kuwe kuba uthando lwakho lukhethekile.

Ngoku, iindaba ezilungileyo: Into oyichazileyo imele ukuba yenzeke, kwaye malunga ngqo ngendlela ochaza ngayo. Uphando lubonisa ukuba isigaba sothando sobudlelwane - into oyibonayo kumabonwakude nakwimiboniso bhanyabhanya kwaye waziva ude waya kuhlala kunye-ihlala naphi na ukusuka kwiinyanga ezintandathu ukuya kwiminyaka emithathu. Usolule isigaba sakho sothando ukuya esiphelweni sangaphandle kwentsimbi, ngokokuvuyisana.

Utshintsho olusuka kwinqanaba lokuthandana lisiya kwinto edla ngokubizwa ngokuba sisigaba “somzabalazo wamandla” ngesiqhelo kwenzeka xa ukuzibophelela okunzulu kusenziwa: isibhengezo somntu omnye, ukutshata, ukuhlala kunye. Ke kwakhona, ulapho ngokuqinisekileyo ubumele ukuba ubekho.

Oogxa bam kuluntu lwaseImago kwaye ndiyathanda ukuqhula ukuba isigaba sothando yindlela kaThixo yokukukhohlisa ukuba uzinikele. Nje ukuba wenze ukuzibophelela, umsebenzi wokwenene wobudlelwane bakho uqala. Kulula ukuthandana. Kunzima kakhulu, kodwa kunentsingiselo ngakumbi kwaye kuyingenelo, ukufumana indlela yokuphila ngolonwabo emva koko.

Yintoni eyenzekayo ngokulandelayo ixhomekeke kuwe nakwokuzibophelela kweqabane lakho kubudlelwane obuqinisekileyo. Ndikucebisa ukuba ufumane izixhobo zokuhlala nomnye umntu kuba asizifumani incwadana yesikolo esiphakamileyo. Uthatha umqhubi ukuba ufunde ukuqhuba imoto ngokukhuselekileyo. Kutheni kungenjalo "ubudlelwane bud?" Zininzi iinkqubo ezilungileyo apha onokuthi ufunde kuzo. Oyena mntu ndimazi ngokugqwesileyo kwaye ke ngoko unokucebisa ngokuzithemba okukhulu iya kuba Kukufumana Uthando Olufunayo ngempelaveki kumbonisi weworkshop oqinisekisiweyo weImago.

Eyona nto inkulu endiyifumanayo kwinto eyahlula izibini ezikhula kwimizabalazo yazo xa kuthelekiswa nezibini ezirhaxayo kuzo kukulungela ukuthatha uxanduva. Kuyamangalisa ngokumangalisayo ukubeka ityala kwiqabane lakho ngento engalunganga kodwa ngekhe kukufikise apho ufuna ukuya khona. Zijonge esipilini uze uzibuze zombini ukuba “Ndenza ntoni mna kulo mdaniso unzima?” Kwaye, "Yintoni le ingemva kwam eyenza ukuba ndibuthathaka kwesi sihloko apho kutyhalwa khona amaqhosha am?"

Ezi zimvo nje ezimbalwa endinazo ekuphenduleni umbuzo wakho onomdla. Ndinqwenela wena neqabane lakho amathamsanqa ngelixa usonga imikhono yakho kwaye uyehla kwishishini elibi kakhulu lokufunda ukuhlala nomnye umntu.