Ungabalekela njani kuMgibe wokuCaphuka

Ngandlela ithile ndingxamele ukufika ekhaya, bendisandula ukugqiba imisebenzi yam kwaye ndiqale ndaziva ndikhawulezile. Phantse kwangoko, ibhasi yesikolo etyheli yaphuma kanye phambi kwam. “Nceda ujike, ndicela ujike ukuze ndingabambeki ngasemva,” ndazicingela. Njengoko ithamsanqa ibiya kuba nayo, ndancamathela emva kwayo- kwaye zonke iindawo zokumisa ezili-15 ezenziwa apha endleleni.

Ithuku lam lokuqala lalikukucaphuka. Ndandifuna nyani ukubuyela ekhaya ndiqale kwezinye zeeprojekthi endandizibekele ixesha lasemva kwemini ukuze ndisebenze kuzo. Ukuthoba isantya kwesi sithuthi kunye nazo zonke iindawo zokumisa ezininzi yayingeyiyo le nto bendizibekele yona. Ndizifumene ndizenzekelayo, indlela esebenzayo yokucaphuka kunye noxinzelelo.

Nangona kunjalo, kukho into eyatsala iliso lam eyaphazamisa ukuhla kwam. Kwindawo yokumisa iibhasi yokuqala, inkwenkwana ethandekayo kunye nomntakwabo omdala bavela endlwini yabo. Inkwenkwana indikhumbuze ngonyana wam, oh kwiminyaka emininzi eyadlulayo, obunye ubomi kwabonakala. Ke ndiye ndaqala ukubukela ndinomdla omkhulu xa intombazana eselula ehle eskolweni yehla ebhasini ndaleqa ukuya kubulisa abantakwabo, nditshayela omncinci ezandleni zakhe ngendlela eyothusayo yokuba ngumama kubudala bakhe.

Ngesiquphe, olu hambo lokukhwela ibhasi lwaba lithuba lokubukela ixesha loqhakamshelwano kunye nokudibana, ukuzibuza ukuba zazinjani na ezi ntsuku zabantwana, ukumangaliswa yile projekthi-ntathu ntombazana intombazana enye ngokuzingca ngokulinganisela ezandleni zayo kunye nobhaka kwi-tow; ukubukela omnye umntwana njengoko inja yakhe yayixhumaxhuma kuye ngothando olukhulu; kwaye uyazibuza ukuba ngabaphi abagcini abangabulisa aba bantwana ekupheleni kosuku lwabo olude, ngethemba lokuba bamkelwe ngokuwolwa ngothando. Yintoni enokuba nayo kwaye ingaba luhambo olude lokunyuka kokucaphuka kunye noxinzelelo, yaba lithuba lokunandipha imizuzwana embalwa yokuthantamisa okufudumezayo.

La mava amafutshane andikhumbuze ukuba ubomi buzele zizinto ezininzi eziphazamisayo zemihla ngemihla nezicaphukisayo, kodwa ke indlela esizisingatha ngayo inokuba negalelo kuxinzelelo lwethu OKANYE kwimpilo-ntle yethu. Kukho amaxesha angaphezulu kokuba ndingathanda ukuvuma ukuba ndiyabanjwa kuxinzelelo, kodwa kuyandixhobisa ukukhumbula ukuba ukhetho lukhona, ukuphendula ukusuka kwindawo evulekileyo yentliziyo kunokuba usabele ngesiqhelo. Nokuba ezinye zezinto ezicaphukisayo zinokubonisa amathuba okutshintsha ukusuka kumlo wethu-okanye-moya-moya, imo yokusinda siye kubuso obuvulekileyo nobubanzi obumema kunxibelelwano nemfesane, kwabanye nakuthi.

Kutshanje, bendijikeleza kwi-funk malunga nale plantar fasciitis (intlungu yesithende) esele iqhubeka kwiinyanga ezintandathu ngoku kwaye ayizukubonakala ngathi iyasombulula, nangona ndizamile izinto ezininzi ukunceda. Ngomzuzu we-flare-up (yentlungu yam, kunye noxinzelelo lwam) ngequbuliso ndaqonda ukuba ezi nyawo zam bezindixhasa kwaye zindibambile ubomi bam bonke, ngaphezulu kwesiqingatha senkulungwane! Ukuqonda oko kundisuse kwimeko yokucaphuka kunye nomsindo ndaya koyiko kunye nombulelo. Xa ndithe ndanqumama ukuze ndibubone ubukhulu bezinto ezenziwa ziinyawo zam imini nobusuku, oko kwandivumela ukuba ndibenombulelo ngento endiyithathela phezulu. Njengokuba bendisiva le mvakalelo intle ngakumbi, ukuzisizela kwam kuguqukele ekubeni yimfesane.

Ke silithatha njani ixesha lokucaphuka kunye nokucaphuka kwaye siliguqulele kwinto eyondlayo ngakumbi? Nazi iingcebiso ezimbalwa:

• Xela indlela oziva ngayo. Yiba nobubele kuwe. Usenokuqonda ukuba “lixesha lobunzima eli.” Xa sichaza iimvakalelo zethu, kuhlala kunceda ukuzisusa. Xa sithatha ixesha lokuchaza iimvakalelo zethu senza isithuba sokuziva sinovelwano kunye nokukhululeka.
• Qaphela umkhwa oqhele ukwenziwa kunye noqhelekile wokwenza into kwindawo yoxinzelelo oluzenzekelayo. Xa ingqondo yethu ibona isoyikiso, uxinzelelo kukuphendula kwethu kwindaleko. Nje ukuba uyamkele le mpendulo yokuqala njengenxalenye yobuntu bethu obuqhelekileyo, kukho ithuba lokuma kancinci kwaye uyayiqonda into yokuba oku ayisiyiyo imeko esongela ubomi. Ngapha koko, inokuba incinci kwisikimu esikhulu sobomi bakho. Ukunceda inkqubo ye-nervous autonomic ibuyele kukhuseleko kunye nemizuzu embalwa yokuphefumla kwengqondo kunokuba luncedo kakhulu. Xa umzimba uziva uzolile, kulula ukuba ubone izinto ngokwembono ebanzi.
• Zibuze ukuba leliphi ithuba elinokubakho kule meko ibonakala inzima. Zama ukujonga ukuba ungafumana into echaseneyo, evakalelwa ngakumbi xa uzifihle kwimeko ozifumana ukuyo. Unga ukujika ube ngumdlalo ukuba uyathanda. Umzekelo, ukuba ubambekile emnxebeni uzama ukusombulula ingxaki kunye nenkampani yakho yeinshurensi, unokucinga malunga nokuba luphi na usuku lomnye umntu xa kufuneka uphendule iifowuni imini yonke kwaye ujongane nabathengi abangenelisekanga. Oku kunokubonelela ithuba lokunikezela ngethoni enobubele okanye ukubonakalisa uxabiso lokwenene. Ukuba ubambekile emgceni, okanye ukugcwala kwabantu, ungajonga ujonge izinto ongaziqhelanga njengesiqhelo, njengomntu osecaleni kwakho osokolayo. Umzuzwana wemfesane okanye unxibelelwano okanye ukuqonda okuvela kuwe ukuya kwenye kunokunceda ukutshintsha imeko yakho. Ukuba kufuneka usebenze into engafanelekanga, mhlawumbi ungayiguqula ibe lithuba lokumamela umculo othile ophakamisayo okanye ipodcast ekhuthazayo. Nokuba siphakathi kwemiceli mngeni yethu emikhulu, xa sinokufumana amathuba okunxibelelana nomnye umntu, sicele okanye sinike uncedo, okanye sibe nemfesane ngeziqu zethu, siyazivulela ukuthuthuzela, ukukhathalela kunye nokuba sempilweni ngakumbi.
• Nciphisa kakhulu Khawufane ucinge ukuba unayo ilensi yekhamera okanye iibonakude kwaye usondeze umfanekiso ukuze ubone umbono obanzi. Thatha ingqalelo zonke ii-angles kunye neembono ezingabandakanyi umbono wakho kwangoko. Umzekelo, ngaphambi kokuba uphendule xa ufumanisa ukuba iqabane lakho lishiye izitya zalo esinkini (okanye enye into ekucaphukisayo), qaphela onke amaxesha abakuncede ngayo ngemisebenzi, kwaye ujonge usuku abanalo kunye nenqanaba labo loxinzelelo. Emva koko yenza impendulo yakho kule ndawo ibanzi.

Qaphela impilo elindelekileyo xa ufumana iindlela ezincinci zokutshintsha yonke imihla yakho kwaye uzicel 'umngeni ngokufumana la mathuba rhoqo kangangoko unakho. Ukujika okulandelayo okucaphukisayo kunokuba lithuba lakho lokukhubeka kubutyebi obungalindelekanga.

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