Ungaqonda Njani Nabanye, Kwizinyathelo ezi-8

Umxholo

• Iingcebiso ezininzi malunga nendlela yencoko evela kuvelwano ekhetha ukuvela kwezivumelwano.
• Indlela yokuqonda: Iingcebiso ezi-8
• 1. Cinga ngezinto eziphambili zomnye
• 2. Yiba nomonde
• 3. Ziqhelanise nokumamela
• 4. Musa ukuhlekisa
• 5. Bonisa umdla kwiimvakalelo zabo
• 6. Nika amathuba okuzikhulula
• 7. Cinga ngeziphumo zento oyenzayo
• Cinga ngempembelelo yomxholo
• Izalathiso zebhayibhile:

Iingcebiso ezininzi malunga nendlela yencoko evela kuvelwano ekhetha ukuvela kwezivumelwano.

Ukukwazi ukuqonda yenye yeendlela zengqondo ezisenze ukuba sikwazi ukuhlala eluntwini. Kwaye kungenxa yesizathu esifanayo ukuba umntu ngamnye abe nobuntu bakhe, kuyimfuneko ukubeka umzamo othile wokuziqhelanisa neembono zabanye ukuze unxibelelane nabo.

Kweli nqaku siza kubona iimbono ezininzi eziphambili malunga nokuqonda okanye ukuqonda, kwaye zinokusetyenziswa njani kubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla.

Indlela yokuqonda: Iingcebiso ezi-8

Ukususela kumzuzu apho abantu bahlala khona eluntwini, kubalulekile ukuba umntu ngamnye azivumelanise neemfuno kunye neempawu zabo bantu ahlala nabo. Le nkqubo ihlala ibandakanya inqanaba elithile lokuzincama, kodwa sinokuqinisekisa ukuba le nzame ayisiyonto ililize kwaye isebenza ngokungcono ukuba inxulumene nenye kungekuphela kwithiyori, kodwa nakwindlela yokusebenza.

1. Cinga ngezinto eziphambili zomnye

Ukucacisa ngakumbi, kuyafuneka thatha ingqalelo kwinqanaba lokuxabiseka kunye neemfuno ehambisa umntu esithetha naye. Nokuba siyavumelana nale ndlela yokubeka phambili, kubalulekile ukuqonda uluvo lwabo ukuze sithathe amanyathelo okuqala engxoxo kunye nemvumelwano.

2. Yiba nomonde

Ukuba wonke umntu ebecinga njengathi, unxibelelwano beluya kuba lulwelo olumangalisayo kwaye lukhawuleze… kodwa luyadika kwaye lungavuseleli kakhulu. Ngesi sizathu, ukuqonda kuthetha ukuba nomonde oyimfuneko shiya indawo yokusondela kwizikhundla, yokuqondana, ethi ngokwenkcazo ingenzeki kumcimbi wamaqhezu omzuzwana, kodwa ibandakanya yonke inkqubo.

3. Ziqhelanise nokumamela

Ixesha lokumamela libaluleke kakhulu, hayi kuphela kuba lisivumela ukuba siqale ukucinga njengabanxibelelanisi bethu, kodwa kuba ikwayindlela yokukhuthaza incoko nentsebenziswano. Ngesi sizathu, kufuneka yomelezwe ngokuzibandakanya nathi ekuphulaphuleni ngenkuthalo, okunento yokwenza nayo yonke into izinto zomlomo nezingezomlomo ezibonisa ukuba simamele. Yenza amagqabantshintshi, jonga emehlweni, wanqwala… iinkcukacha ezincinci ezenza umahluko.

4. Musa ukuhlekisa

Abanye abantu baxhamla kuyo nayiphi na imeko apho kukho ukungavisisani nomntu abasebenzisana naye ukuzama ukumhlekisa. Oku kunokuba sisiqabu kulowo uyenzayo (ngexabiso lomnye), kodwa ayisebenzi nayiphi na injongo ngaphandle kwaleyo, kwaye endaweni yoko ineempembelelo ezininzi ezimbi. Phakathi kwabo, into yokuba ukuqonda okunzima kakhulu kunokuba nzima.

5. Bonisa umdla kwiimvakalelo zabo

Amaxesha amaninzi, asiyiqondi kakuhle enye de sizazi iimvakalelo zabo kwaye, ngokubanzi, Inxalenye engekho ngqiqweni yabo ebakhokelela ekubeni benze. Kodwa le yinto ayinguye wonke umntu ozimiseleyo ukwabelana nabanye ekutshintshisweni kokuqala. Ke ngoko, kufanelekile ukubonisa ukuba imbono yabo iyahlonitshwa kwaye banokuthetha ngokukhululekileyo ngaphandle koloyiko lokugwetywa.

6. Nika amathuba okuzikhulula

Ngamanye amaxesha okusigcina sahlukene nomnye umntu yinto yokuba baziva benetyala kwaye ke ngoko bakholelwa ukuba banokuqhubeka kuphela ngendlela yokujongana, banikezwe ukuba benze izinto kwixa elidlulileyo ezinokuthi zithathelwe ingqalelo njengezimbi ukuba olo ngxabano belungekho.

Ke, kubalulekile ukuba unike amathuba okuzikhulula ngendlela efihlakeleyo, ngaphandle kokubonisa ukuba luhlobo "lwesiko."

Umzekelo, ukuthatha inxenye yokuba kukho into eyenzekileyo eyenzakalise omnye, nokuba ayiyonyani leyo, ukuze loo mntu azive elungile esenza umbingelelo obonakalayo wokusixolela. Ngele ndlela, Ungaziva ngathi ityala lakho licinyiwe. Kodwa ibhalansi kufuneka ibethwe ukuze umzekelo ungasetwa apho nasiphi na isikhalazo sinokusonjululwa ngendlela elula kakhulu.

7. Cinga ngeziphumo zento oyenzayo

Ngalo lonke ixesha usenza into echaphazela omnye umntu, cinga ngaphaya kokuba lithetha ntoni olo tshintsho kuwe. Kuya kufuneka uzibeke ezihlangwini zomnye kwaye ubone, umzekelo, ukuba iyenza mandundu imeko yakho, into enokwenzeka ukuba kude kube lelo mzuzu singakhange sime siye siqwalasele ukuba kuthetha ntoni ukuthatha inxaxheba ngokukuko okanye ngokungenzi nto koko sikuguqulileyo.

Cinga ngempembelelo yomxholo

Ngokwendalo, abantu bahlala bekholelwa ukuba umntu yile nto ayithandayo, ngaphandle kokunye. Isenzeko esichazwe ithiyori yelizwe elinobulungisa, umzekelo, sisampulu yalo. Nangona kunjalo, oku kububuxoki, kuba okusingqongileyo kusiphembelela kakhulu.

Ke ngoko, ukubanzi ngakumbi, kufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo ukuba umntu uyimveliso yezigqibo zakhe kodwa kunye neemeko ekuye kwafuneka ukuba aphile phantsi kwazo.

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