Ungasinika njani isiCalulo esiDibeneyo: Iingcebiso ezili-11 ezilula neziSebenzayo

Umxholo

• Iingcebiso kunye neengcebiso malunga nokwenza iingcebiso zokuphucula kwezethu izimvo.
• Yintoni ukugxeka okwakhayo?
• Uyenza njani into yokugxeka eyakhayo?
• Unolwazi ngalo mbandela
• 2. Yenza uvavanyo lwemeko
• 3. Qiniseka ukuba ubandakanya izinto ezintle
• Qwalasela ixesha
• 5. Cinga ngendawo ekuyo
• 6. Uhlobo lolwimi
• 7. Qinisa iinjongo zakho
• 8. Vumela ithuba lokuphindaphindeka
• 9. Lawula ithoni yelizwi
• 10. Thatha ingqalelo ukubakho komnye umntu
• 11. Thatha ingqalelo yamathuba omnye umntu

Iingcebiso kunye neengcebiso malunga nokwenza iingcebiso zokuphucula kwezethu izimvo.

Ukugxeka okwakhayo yinxalenye yenkqubo yonxibelelwano yokuqina. Xa sikwazi ukuveza ngokucacileyo izimvo zethu, sinovelwano nabanye, sinokwenza ukugxeka okwakhayo. Ewe kunjalo, yinkqubo ethe-ethe.

Kweli nqaku siza kubona ukuba ngawaphi amanyathelo ekufuneka elandelwe ukwenza ukugxeka okwakhayo malunga nezenzo, indlela yobukho okanye ukusebenza komnye umntu.

Yintoni ukugxeka okwakhayo?

Inkqubo yokwenza ukugxeka okwakhayo iphendula kwizinto ezininzi ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe, kodwa Isiseko sazo zonke iingcebiso malunga nento enokwenziwa ukuphucula into iya kuhlala iluvelwano onayo ngomnye umntu.

Xa sikhathalele ukukhula komnye umntu, nakweyiphi na indawo yabo, sifuna kuphela ukuba lo mntu abe nakho ukuphucula amandla abo, kwaye ngenxa yoku kufuneka siveze ukuba yeyiphi imiba indlela yokuziphatha kwabo enokutshintsha ngayo (ukusuka Indawo yethu yokujonga).

Ke, ukwenza ukugxeka ngeyona njongo intle, kubalulekile ukuba sikwazi ukuzibeka endaweni yomnye kwaye sive ukuba zinjani izinto ngokwembono yabo.

Ayimfuneko kuphela ukuba ucinge ngesiphumo sokuphucula, imveliso yokugqibela, kodwa nayo Ukuqwalasela umzuzu wangoku apho ukuphucuka akukenzeki : zeziphi izinto ezixhalabisayo, ukungazithembi kunye nolindelo omnye analo? Kunokuthathwa njani ukugxekwa ngokuthe ngqo?

Uyenza njani into yokugxeka eyakhayo?

Nazi iingcebiso neengcebiso ngeendlela zokwenza ukugxeka okwakhayo ngokufanelekileyo.

Unolwazi ngalo mbandela

Ukunika ingxelo ngento esingayaziyo ayakhi kwaphela, endaweni yoko, endaweni yokongeza, siya kube sithatha.

Eyona nto icetyiswayo ngaphambi kokufaka ukugxeka kwakho emntwini kukuba uqiniseke ukuba ubuncinci ubuncinci bomyalelo oya kuthi uphawule ngawo. Ukuba akunjalo, ukunika uluvo lwakho ngaloo ndlela inokubonwa njengokuphazamisa okungafunekiyo kunye nokuchitha ixesha.

2. Yenza uvavanyo lwemeko

Ngaphambi kokuba unike umbono wakho malunga nokusebenza komntu, kuyafuneka ukuba uvavanye ukuba zeziphi izinto ezinempembelelo kwisiphumo sokugqibela. Ngale ndlela, ekugxekeni kwakho okwakhayo Uya kuba nakho ukunika ulwazi oluthe ngqo ngakumbi kwimiba apho umntu kufuneka aphucule khona.

Umzekelo, umntu usenokuba sele eyazi ukuba abaqhubi kakuhle ekholejini, kodwa oku ikakhulu kubangelwa kukuswela umbutho okanye izakhono zokufunda kodwa kwinto elula yokuba bayasebenza emva kwemini kwaye abanamandla okushiya .

3. Qiniseka ukuba ubandakanya izinto ezintle

Xa ulungiselela ukwenza ukugxeka okwakhayo, injongo kukuba ungajongi kuphela kwimiba yomntu oza kulungiswa, kodwa bakhathalele ukuqaqambisa ubuhle babo. Oku kuhamba indlela ende ekuqiniseni inkuthazo yomnye umntu yokuqhubela phambili.

Qwalasela ixesha

Kufuneka sifike ngexesha xa sigxeka ngokuqinisekileyo. Kuyimfuneko ukuba sithathele ingqalelo umzuzu apho siza kubeka khona umbono wethu komnye.

Ngamanye amaxesha kuye kufuneke ukuba ulinde imeko efanelekileyo ukuze ungadeleli.

5. Cinga ngendawo ekuyo

Njengalo mzuzu, kufuneka sijonge kakuhle ukuba indawo esikuyo yeyona ifanelekileyo yokwenza ukuqaphela esingathanda ukukwenza komnye umntu malunga nokusebenza kwabo.

Umbono kukuba siyakwazi ukukhuthaza ukuphucula, sukuvelisa iimeko ezingonwabisiyo.

6. Uhlobo lolwimi

Ulwimi olucacileyo malusoloko lusetyenziswa. Masingashiyi naziphi na izimvo emoyeni, kuba oku kungakhokelela kukungaqondani. Kuya kufuneka sixoxe, inqaku ngephuzu, sithini ukuqaphela kunye neengcebiso zethu.

Asifuni ukuvelisa ukwaliwa, kodwa iqhina lokuthembana kunye nesihloko.

7. Qinisa iinjongo zakho

Kubalulekile ukugxininisa kwiinjongo omnye umntu anqwenela ukufikelela kuzo.

Kulungile ukukukhumbuza ukuba ufuna ukuyenza kangakanani kwaye kufanelekile ukuzama ukuyifezekisa, uhlala uqinisekisa ukuba ezo njongo ziyafezekiswa ngokusekwe kumxholo wesifundo.

8. Vumela ithuba lokuphindaphindeka

Nje ukuba ugqibile ukuvakalisa ukugxeka okwakhayo, yiba Qiniseka ukuba unike omnye umntu ilungelo lokuphendula. Kuyimfuneko ukuba unxibelelwano lubini kwaye omnye unethuba lokunika uluvo lwabo kwiingcebiso zakho.

9. Lawula ithoni yelizwi

Ithoni yelizwi esiyisebenzisayo ukunxibelelana nezimvo zethu Iya kugqiba ikakhulu ukuba unxibelelwano luya kuba njani.

Asimele sibe nobutshaba ukuze omnye umntu angaziva ehlonitshwa. Ukuzola, kungcono.

10. Thatha ingqalelo ukubakho komnye umntu

Kukho abantu abangafumanekiyo ukufumana ukugxekwa, kungakhange kube ngathi kuyakha njengoko kunokuba njalo. Kwimeko yokuqala, singazama indlela yokunika ukugxeka, kodwa ukuba isifundo asibamkeli, kungcono ukuba singanyanzelisi kakhulu.

11. Thatha ingqalelo yamathuba omnye umntu

Chonga ukuba omnye umntu unezinto ezifanelekileyo zokutshintsha imeko yabo, okanye ukuba ngokuchaseneyo yinto engaphaya kolawulo lwabo.

Kwimeko apho isifundo singenakutshintsha imeko yakhe yokwenyani, kunqande ukumgxeka, kwaye unike inkxaso nenkxaso yakho kangangoko unako.