Ngaba Kukho Umntu Onomsindo?

Kweli xesha lethu le-pop-psychology, xa amaqabane enomdla wokuya kwi-Intanethi ukufumanisa ukuba baneengxaki zobuntu, ndibuzwa ngalo lonke ixesha "ngobuntu obunomsindo."

I-Neuroticism luphawu lobuntu kodwa hayi umsindo. Kuxa kuphela imiba ye-neuroticism -ukukhathazeka, umona, umona, ukuziva unetyala, ukudakumba, ukuba nesizungu batyholwa kuwe okanye kwabanye, ngaba bavelisa umsindo. Ityala yindlela yokufunda indlela yokulwa, hayi uphawu lomntu.

Ngelixa kungekho "mntu unomsindo," ezi meko zilandelayo kunye nemikhwa zihambelana nomsindo ongapheliyo kunye nenzondo.

Ilungelo

Amalungelo kunye namalungelo am aphezulu kunalawo abanye abantu. Kubudlelwane, ilungelo lam lokufumana into endiyifunayo lithatha indawo yelungelo lakho lokuba ungandiniki into endiyifunayo.

Gxila kwizinto ngaphandle kolawulo lomntu

Ezitratweni, bajolise kwindlela ekufanele ukuba yenziwe ngayo, indlela ezifanele ukuba zangqanyaniswa ngayo nezibane, kunye nendlela abaqhuba ngayo abanye abantu. Kubudlelwane, bagxila ekusebenziseni amaqabane abo ekuziphatheni nakwindlela yokuziphatha.

Ummiselo wangaphandle weemvakalelo

Bazama ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo ngokulawula okusingqongileyo.

Iimvakalelo azikho kwindalo esingqongileyo. Iimvakalelo zingaphakathi kuthi, kwaye kulapho kufuneka zilawulwe khona.

Indawo yangaphandle yolawulo

Bakholelwa ukuba intlalontle yabo, inene ikamva labo, lilawulwa yimikhosi enamandla engaphandle kwesiqu sabo, kwaye bayigwebe, abayikuthatha.

Ukwala ukubona ezinye iimbono

Babona iindlela ezahlukileyo njengezisongelo ze-ego.

Ukunyamezelana okuphantsi kokubandezeleka

Ukungakhululeki kuhlala kubangelwa zizinto ezibonakalayo ezisezantsi- udiniwe, ulambile, ulele-ukulala. Baphambanisa ukungonwabi sisigwebo esingalunganga. Njengakubantwana abaninzi abasabhadazayo, ukungonwabi ngokukhawuleza kujika kumsindo.

Ukunyamezelana okuphantsi kokungaqondakali

Ukuqiniseka yimvakalelo, hayi imeko yengqondo. Ukuziva siqinisekile, kufuneka silinganise isixa solwazi esilusebenzayo. Ukungacacanga kufuna ukuba kulungiswe ulwazi oluthe kratya, abakubona njengesoyikiso esinokubakho.

Ukugxila kugxilwe kwityala

Baxakeke kakhulu kukuchaza ingxaki endaweni yokusombulula. Oku kubenza bangabi namandla okuphucula amava abo.

Abo babek 'ityala ngaphandle kwerente kwiintloko zabo kwaye balawula iingcinga neemvakalelo zabo.

I-ego enobuthathaka

Ingqumbo yavela kwizilwanyana njengezinto ezikhuselayo. Ifuna umbono wokuba sesichengeni kunye nosongelo. Siziva sisesichengeni, kokukhona sisongelwa. (Izilwanyana ezonzakeleyo kunye nendlala zinokuba noburhalarhume.) Kumaxesha anamhlanje, izoyikiso esizibonayo ziphantse zenzeka kwi-ego kuphela.

Isidingo esibonwayo sokhuselo oluninzi siyenza buthathaka imvakalelo yesiqu sakho, siyenze isebenze, kunokuba isebenze, inyanzelise ukufuna amandla okwethutyana nge-adrenaline yomsindo, kunokuba isebenze ixesha elide. Xa isimilo sabantu abanomsindo siphendukela kwimidla yabo yexesha elide, kuhlala kuyingozi.

Akukho nanye kwezi zingasentla luphawu lobuntu. Zonke ezi zinto zingasentla yimikhwa efundwayo kunye nezimo zengqondo. Ngokungafaniyo neempawu zobuntu, imikhwa kunye nezimo zengqondo zinakho ukutshintsha, ngokuziqhelanisa.

Singafunda ukuphucula, kunokuba sibekek 'ityala. Kubudlelwane, singafunda umbono we-binocular-ukukwazi ukubona zombini ezi mbono ngaxeshanye- endaweni yokuxabisa ezinye iimbono.

Kubudlelwane bosapho, sinokufunda ukuzimela ngovelwano-ukumela amalungelo ethu kunye nokukhetha, ngelixa sihlonipha amalungelo, ukhetho kunye nokuba sesichengeni kwabathandekayo.