IDrayivu yoKhuphiswano lwabazali ayisiyoyokudlala komntwana

Abazali abaninzi banobunzima bokwazi ukuba bamele babeke njani umgca phakathi kokukhula komoya wokhuphiswano lomntwana kunye nomnqweno wabo wokuphumelela umntwana wabo. Abanye abazali banomdla wokuphumelela ukuya kwinqanaba lokudana kwanokudana xa umntwana wabo ephulukene nemidlalo. Abazali abasabela ngale ndlela bahlala bengazi ngempembelelo ezimbi abanokuba nazo ekuphumeleleni komntwana wabo kwaye ke baphumelele. Engazi, ukuba nomdla komzali ngokugqithileyo kunokoyikisa umntwana osafumanisa ukuba ukuphumelela, ukuba nezakhono, ukuba lilungu leqela elifanelekileyo kunye nokubonisa ukuba ngumdlalo olungileyo wezemidlalo konke ukuhlangana. Emntwaneni, unqamlezo phakathi kokukholisa umzali kunye nokwamkela ezabo iimbono zokuphumelela kunye nokuphulukana nesenzo sokulinganisa. Ngapha koko, uphando lubonisa ukuba ukusebenza komntwana kunokuba kuthintelwe ngabazali abakhuphisana kakhulu ngenxa yoxinzelelo lwangaphakathi lomntwana oluzise olu xinzelelo longezelelekileyo.

Kukho uphando lokuxhasa ukuba abantwana abancinci baqala ukudlala imidlalo ngaphandle kwemvakalelo yokuwina okanye yokuphulukana. Abazali abakwaziyo ukuxhasa ngempumelelo ukubandakanyeka kweembaleki zabantwana babo bakwenza oko ngokubonelela ngenkxaso yokuhamba kunye nezemali, ukunika ingxelo eyakhayo kunye nokuqinisa ixabiso lokusebenzisana kunye nobuchule bokuphatha. Aba bazali bavumela abantwana babo ukuba bakhulise umoya wabo wokhuphiswano kwaye bakulumkele ukungayichaphazeli le nkqubo.

Kwinkcubeko yethu ejolise kusukelo abazali bayavuma ukuba banomdla wokuba nomntwana "aphumelele." Abazali abaziyo bayayeka ukubuza imibuzo enje, “Ngaba uphumelele? Athini amanqaku? Zingaphi iinjongo ozenzileyo? ” Bayayiqonda into yokuba imeko yovavanyo yale mibuzo inokoyikisa umntwana. Ungathini ukuba impendulo iyalandula kuwo omathathu la mabalo? Akukho lula ukuba umntwana axele iindaba ezimbi kumzali otyale imali ngokugqithiseleyo. Ndiyabazi abantwana abaxokayo kwaye baxele ubuxoki, iziphumo ezilungileyo ukuthintela ukuphoxa umzali. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, abazali ngabona bantu abantwana bajolise kubo ukukholisa uninzi.

Nazi ezinye iingcebiso malunga nendlela abazali abanokuyinyusa ngayo imbono esempilweni yokhuphiswano kwaye bavumele umntwana wabo ukuba aphuhle eyakhe ingqiqo yokuphumelela kunye neyokuphulukana:

• Hlaziya imibuzo yabo malunga nokuphumelela, ukuphulukana kunye nokufumana amanqaku emva komdlalo. Ewe abazali bafuna ukwazi, kodwa ukubamba loo ngcinga kuhlala kungcono kunokuba umntwana evolontiya ulwazi.

• Vumela abaqeqeshi ukuba benze isigqibo malunga nenqanaba lezakhono zomntwana, ukunikezelwa kweqela kunye nexesha lokudlala. Vumela abaqeqeshi banike iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokunika inkxaso efanelekileyo. Ukwamkela isikhokelo kubaqeqeshi babantwana kuyafana nokuyamkela kootitshala babo.

• Cinga kwaye uzihloniphe iinjongo zomntwana wabo zokufuna ukuzibandakanya kwezemidlalo. Baninzi abantwana abangakhuthazwanga ikakhulu kukuphumelela. Uthando lwabo lomdlalo kunye nomnqweno wabo wokuba kunye nabahlobo babo njengenxalenye yeqela banokuwina uloyiso. Ukuba bayaphumelela, kuhle! Kodwa ukudibana kweqela kunokuba yinto ephambili.

• Qaphela kwaye woyise naziphi na izizathu ezingahambelaniyo nomnqweno womntwana kunye nomdla wokudlala imidlalo.

• Jonga ukhuphiswano njengenxalenye yemidlalo yeqela, hayi ngaphezulu okanye ngokungabalulekanga kunezinye izinto. Ukwenza ukhuphiswano lube nefuthe elibaluleke ngakumbi ekusebenzeni kakubi ngenxa yoxinzelelo olubeka emntwaneni ukuze aphumelele endaweni yokudlala kakuhle, ukonwaba kunye nokufunda ngokwenkqubo.

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Ilungelo lokushicilela, ngo-2013