Inzululwazi ithi Amantombazana anamhlanje aXhalabile kunakuqala

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Abazali banexhala lokuba iintombi zabo zihlala zibonakala zixinekile kwaye zixinekile. Kuya kuvela, uninzi lukhona. Izifundo zibonisa ukwanda okuxhalabisayo koxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo olufunyanwa ngamantombazana ukuqala kwiminyaka eyi-10 nakwikholeji.

Ukuba unentombi, uyazi: Baphantsi koxinzelelo olukhulu lokuba baqhube kakuhle esikolweni, bazibandakanye ngokwasentlalweni kwaye bamkelwe, babukeke bekhangeleka belungile — nokuba yeyiphi na ngamanye amaxesha enokubangela ukuba uvakale uxinzelelo okanye uxinzelelo.

Ngokophando olutsha lwePew Centre, abasixhenxe kulutsha abalishumi babona unxunguphalo noxinzelelo njengengxaki enkulu phakathi koontanga babo abaphakathi kweminyaka eli-13 ukuya kweli-17 ubudala. Kwaye banamathuba amahle okuba bazikhathaze kakhulu ngokungena kwisikolo abasithandayo. " Uphando lweli Ziko luqinisekisa ukuba "uninzi lwamantombazana kunabafana bathi bahlala bexhalabile okanye benoloyiko malunga nosuku lwabo (iipesenti ezingama-36 xa kuthelekiswa neepesenti ezingama-23 ngokwahlukeneyo, bathi baziva ngolu hlobo yonke imihla okanye phantse yonke imihla)."

Ukongeza kunye nokugcwala phantsi koxinzelelo luxhalabile malunga nokuxhaphaza, ukusebenzisa iziyobisi kunye nokusetyenziswa kotywala, ubudlelwane namakhwenkwe, kwaye, kuyaqondakala, ukudutyulwa kwabafundi esikolweni kunye nokuziva ngathi kukungxola kweendaba ezimbi. Kumantombazana amancinci, uninzi lwawo athambekele ekuyicingisisiseni imeko okanye isehlo, uxinzelelo lunokuziva luthe xha.

Buza naliphi na inenekazi eliselula olaziyo, kwaye angakuxelela ukuba uziva exhalabile ethekweni, okanye unoxinzelelo lokungavisisani awayenako nomhlobo wakhe osenyongweni. Usenokoyika intetho ekufuneka eyenzile eklasini okanye kuvavanyo angaziva ekulungele ukulwenza. Okanye unokuba novalo malunga nento aza kuyibona kwixesha elizayo xa evula iSnapchat okanye i-Instagram. Unokuba noxinzelelo okanye uxinzelelo malunga nokhuphiswano lweembaleki oluzayo okanye ukusebenza komculo, okanye malunga nokwenza malunga nenkwenkwe emsukelayo (okanye engekho).

Ukuba unentombi, kuya kufuneka uzibuze, "Lungalunga njani lonke olu xinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo, nokuba luncedo?" Njengomzali emseleni kunye nomntu ofumana udubulo, ukunyibilika, ukucaphuka, okanye ukungathethi cwaka, kuya kufuneka ukuba uzibuze, "Ndinganceda njani ngokufanelekileyo?"

Uxinzelelo kunye nexhala “ngamawele omama”

Intombi yakho inokuzonda ukuziva uxinezelekile okanye uxhalabile; usenokubona ezi mpendulo zomeleleyo njengesibetho. Kodwa ayisiyonto imbi. Kubalulekile ukuba uqale uqonde ukuba uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo ludlala indima njani ekusebenzeni kwemihla ngemihla komnye umntu. Nangona uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo zihlala zidibana ezingqondweni zabantu kwaye zisetyenziswa ngokungafaniyo, abazali banokunceda iintombi zabo ukuba zizisebenzise zombini.

Yazi ukuba ezi mvakalelo "zimbi", kunye nempendulo yendalo yomzimba yokuzikhusela, zinokufakwa ngokufanelekileyo. Lisa Damour, umbhali we Phantsi koxinzelelo: Ukujongana nobhubhane woxinzelelo kunye nexhala kumantombazana, ibhekisa kuxinzelelo noxinzelelo "ngamawele omtshato ... zombini azonwabanga ngokwasemphefumlweni." Uchaza uxinzelelo njengo "kuziva uxinzelelo lweemvakalelo okanye kwengqondo okanye uxinzelelo," kunye noxinzelelo "kukuziva ukoyika, ukunkwantya, okanye ukothuka."

Kungenxa yokuba uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo lube sisibetho kumantombazana amancinci oko akuthethi ukuba uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo azinakuba luncedo-nokuba zilungile-ngakumbi ukuba sizibuyisela njengezixhobo zokuhamba kwicala elifanelekileyo, endaweni yeemvakalelo ezimbi ezisibambayo umva. UDamour wenza ukuba la manqaku agcinwe engqondweni njengoko unceda intombi yakho:

• Kunokuba lula ukubaleka xa usaqala uxinzelelo okanye uxinzelelo. Kodwa ngokufundisa iintombi zethu ukuba zijongane neemeko zoxinzelelo, sizinceda ukuba zomelele.
• Uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo ziziphumo zokuphuma kwindawo yokuthuthuzela. Ukusebenza ngaphaya kwendawo yabo yokuthuthuzela kunceda amantombazana akhule, ngakumbi xa ethatha imingeni emitsha.
• Ukuhlalutya imeko evelisa ixhala kunye neentombi kubanceda bavavanye ngcono ukuba bayazibaxa na ukuba kubi kangakanani okanye kujongela phantsi amandla abo okujongana nayo.

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