Amaqhinga amaNarcissist asebenzise ukufumana amandla

Umxholo

• Ukuzithemba kweNarcissists
• Amaqhinga asetyenziselwa ukugcina ukuZenzekelayo, ukuzithemba, kunye naMandla
• Hypervigilance
• Iskena
• Iindawo ezikhethiweyo kunye nobudlelwane
• Ukuzithemba Kubalulekile Ukufunda
• Ukuzithemba kwakho Kunokuba Konakalisa Ulwalamano Lwakho

Ukuya kwinqanaba elithile, uninzi lwethu lunqwenela ukuphucula inqanaba lethu ekuhlaleni kunye nokuzithemba, kodwa ii-narcissists ziziva zinyanzelekile ukuba zenze njalo. Uphononongo lwamva nje lugqibe kwelokuba kukuhlala bexhalabile. Ngaphezu kwabantu abaninzi, bajonge kwabanye “ngommiselo wokuzithemba nokuzithemba; ukunyusa umoya okanye ukuzixabisa ... ”ngokutsho kuka Unyango woNyango kunye neNgcaciso yeNcwadi yokuPhazamiseka kwengqondo . Ukuzithemba kwabo kuyatshintsha phakathi kokunyuka kwamaxabiso kunye nokusilela.

AbakwaNarcissists baxakeke kukulawula ukuzithemba kwabo, umfanekiso, inkangeleko yabo, kunye nenqanaba labo ekuhlaleni. Babona umhlaba ngokwabo ngokwemeko yokuma phezulu, apho baphakamile khona kwaye abanye bangaphantsi.

Ezingqondweni zabo, ukongama kwabo okucingelwayo kubanika ilungelo elikhethekileyo elingafanelekanga kwabanye. Izidingo zabo, izimvo zabo, kunye neemvakalelo zabo zibala, ngelixa ezabanye zingenzi okanye zenze kwinqanaba elincinci. Banemibono emikhulu yokuncoma ubungangamsha babo, apho banomdla kakhulu, banetalente, banamandla, bakrelekrele, bomelele kwaye bazizityebi.

Ukuzithemba kweNarcissists

Ukuzithemba kubonisa indlela esicinga ngayo ngathi. Kwiimvavanyo ezininzi, ama-narcissist afumana amanqaku aphezulu ngokuzithemba kuba i-grandiose narcissists inomfanekiso ogqwethekileyo. Ngokwesiko, ukuzithemba okuphezulu kwe-grandiose narcissist kwathathwa njenge-façade yehlazo elisisiseko. Ukungazithembi kwabo bekuhlala kutyhilwa kuphela kuseto lonyango. Kutshanje abaphandi baye bacela umngeni kule ngcamango. Nangona kunjalo, iimvavanyo ezixhomekeke kukuzixela azinako ukuvelisa iinkolelo kunye neenkqubo ezivela kwizimo zengqondo zokuziphatha kunye nokuziphatha okanye ezo zibonwe kuseto lweklinikhi.

Umzekelo, ngokutsho komtshana kaDonald Trump (kwaye waqinisekiswa ngudadewabo), wayehlala esenza ubuxoki. Ubanga ukuba "yayiyeyona ndlela yokuziphakamisa eyenzelwe ukubonisa abanye abantu ukuba ungcono kunaye." I-Narcissists ibonakalisiwe ukuba ixoka kwiimvavanyo. Nangona kunjalo, xa abaphandi bababeka kuvavanyo lwe-polygraph apho kufunyaniswa ukuba kungabonisi kakubi kubo, khange baxoke, kwaye amanqaku abo okuzithemba ancipha ngokuphawulekayo. (Jonga "Oonyana boTata beNarcissistic.")

Abantu bahlala becinga "ngokuzithemba okuphezulu" njengokufanelekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuzithemba okuxhomekeke kwizimvo zabanye asikokuzithemba, kodwa “kukuzithemba.” Ndiyakholelwa ekubeni ukuzithemba okungekho ngqiqweni kunye nokunye okuxhomekeke kukuzithemba akunampilo kwaye ndikhetha ukuchaza ukuzithemba kwakho njengokusempilweni okanye kokungalunganga. Ukuzithemba okungahambi kakuhle kukhokelela ekuzikhuseleni, kwiingxaki zokunxibelelana nabanye kunye nakwingcali, kunye ne-narcissists, ndlongondlongo ngokunjalo.

Ukuzibeka kwinqanaba lokuzithemba okuphezulu kuyalahlekisa, ngenxa yokuba inyuselwe ngokubanzi kwaye ayinanto yakwenza nenyani yokwenyani. Ukongeza, ibuthathaka kwaye ichanekile ngokulula. Ukuzithemba okusempilweni kuzinzile kwaye akusebenzi kwimeko yokusingqongileyo. Ayisiyo-hierarchical kwaye ayixhomekekanga ekuziva ungaphezulu kwabanye. Kwaye ayinxulunyaniswa nobundlongondlongo kunye neengxaki zobudlelwane, kodwa umva. Abantu abanokuzithemba okusempilweni abakho ndlongondlongo kwaye baneembambano ezimbalwa kubudlelwane. Bayakwazi ukulalanisa kunye nokuvana.

Amaqhinga asetyenziselwa ukugcina ukuZenzekelayo, ukuzithemba, kunye naMandla

Inyani yokuba aba-narcissist baqhayisa, babaxile, kwaye baxoka malunga nobukhulu babo kunye nokuzithemba kwabo kubonisa ukuba bazama ukuziqinisekisa ukuba bazifihla ukuzicekisa okufihlakeleyo kunye neemvakalelo zokujongela phantsi. Ihlazo labo elifihliweyo kunye nokungazithembi kuqhuba ukungakhathali nokuziphatha kwabo ngokubhekisele kumfanekiso wabo wokuzithemba, ukuzithemba, ukubonakala, kunye namandla. Basebenzisa iindlela ngeendlela:

Hypervigilance

I-Narcissists inovakalelo olugqithisileyo kwizisongelo kumfanekiso wabo kwaye bayikhathalele imikhwa enokuyichaphazela emehlweni abanye. Bazabalazela ukulawula ukubonakala kwabo ngokuzicingela nokuziphatha kwabo. Esi sicwangciso sidinga umzamo rhoqo.

Iskena

Umzuzwana-ukuya-kumzuzu, baskena abanye abantu kunye neendawo ezibangqongileyo ukuvavanya nokuphakamisa inqanaba labo.

Iindawo ezikhethiweyo kunye nobudlelwane

Bakhetha iimeko eziza kuphakamisa endaweni yokunciphisa ukuzithemba kwabo. Ke, bayakuthintela ukusondelelana kwaye bafune esidlangalaleni, isikhundla esiphakamileyo, ukhuphiswano, kunye nemeko yokuma phezulu kwiindawo ezisondeleyo nezilinganayo kuba zibonelela ngamathuba amakhulu okufumana iwonga. Bakhetha ukufumana abafowunelwa abaninzi, izihlobo, kunye namaqabane ngaphezulu kokuphuhlisa ubudlelwane obukhoyo.

Ukuzithemba Kubalulekile Ukufunda

Ukuzithemba kwakho Kunokuba Konakalisa Ulwalamano Lwakho