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Njengamahlazo ezesondo abandakanya amadoda anamandla abonakala esiya esiya ngokuxhaphaka (Edwards, Lee, Schwarzenegger, Strauss-Kahn, Weiner, njl. Kutheni le nto, ngamanye amagama, ngaba amadoda azimisele ngakumbi kunabafazi ukuba semngciphekweni wokuphulukana nemisebenzi kunye neentsapho zabo ukuze baqhubeke namathuba amatsha okutshata?

Ithiyori zikaDarwin zokhetho lwendalo kunye nokwabelana ngesondo zibonelela ngesakhelo esinyanzelisayo sokuqonda umahluko ngokwesini kolu nyanzelo lokulandela amaqabane amatsha. Kwaye nangona uninzi loluntu ngokubanzi lunokuvuma ukwamkela, kwinqanaba elithile, ukuba lo mahluko wesini uneengcambu zebhayiloji yendalo, kusekho uloyiko kunye nokungaqondani phaya malunga nokuba ingaba ingaba iyintoni intsingiselo yenyani.

Olu loyiko kunye nokungaqondi kuyabonakala kumanqaku akutshanje malunga nokuba kutheni amadoda esenza amanyundululu kunabafazi. Kwi INew York Times Isiqwenga uSheryl Stolberg uthi, "Kungalula ... ukugxotha" umahluko ngokwesini "njengonxibelelwano olwenziwe nge testosterone, olunentambo enzima phakathi kwesondo namandla." U-Stolberg uqhubeka echaza uluvo lwakhe lokuba umahluko asiyomveliso ye-biology, kodwa yeyokuba abasetyhini abasemagunyeni bazimisele kakhulu ngemisebenzi yabo (umbono apho kubonakala ngathi akukho bungqina buninzi). Kwaye kwisithuba se Isilayidi , UAmanda Marcotte uncome uStolberg "ngokuphatha [ukuthintela] umgibe wokuzama ukumisela umahluko omkhulu phakathi kwesini samadoda nabasetyhini." Uqhubeka nokunikezela ngeenkcazo zakhe azithandayo: amadoda abangela amanyundululu ngakumbi kuba kukho amadoda amaninzi asemandleni (umbono otyhilwe kweli nqaku), kwaye kuba abasetyhini baya kohlwaywa ngokuqatha ngokuziphatha okunjalo (okungachazi ukuba kutheni ukohlwaywa okujamelene nabesilisa kwezi manyundululu-umzekelo, ukuphulukana nomsebenzi-khange zenze lukhulu ukubathintela).

Lo mahluko wesini kwiminqweno yamaqabane amatsha awuthethi ukuba amadoda awunamdla kwixesha elide, ubudlelwane bezesondo obuzinikeleyo; Ngokuchasene noko, uninzi lwamadoda luzabalazela ubudlelwane obunje kwaye lubuxabisa ngokunzulu. Kodwa oko kuthetha ukuba nokuba uyabandakanyeka kulwalamano olunjalo, indoda eliqhelekileyo iya kuwathatha amathuba okuba iqabane namaqabane amatsha njengeyona inyanzelisayo kunokuba ibhinqa eliqhelekileyo. Kwaye ukomelela kwesi silingo kuya kuthi ngokulinganayo kulingane nenqanaba lakhe lentlalontle, kuba ngokuya ephezulu imeko yakhe, kokukhona abafazi baya kutsaleleka kuye (kwakhona, ngezizathu ezisisiseko zokuzivelela kwezinto), kunye namathuba ngakumbi aya kuba nawo.

Ke umntu okwisikhundla esiphakamileyo uhlala ejongene nengxaki. Ngelixa ezinye iimodyuli eziguqukayo kwingqondo yakhe-masizibize ngokuba ziimodyuli zakhe "zexesha elide "- ziyamqeqesha ukuba enze ngeendlela eziza kunceda usapho, umsebenzi kunye nodumo, ezinye iimodyuli eziguqukileyo- iimodyuli zakhe" zokutshatisa "ziyamcenga ukulandela amathuba amatsha ezesondo. Kwaye ezi modyuli zokutshatisa, ngaphandle kokunyanzelisa ngokwazo, zinokuthi zonakalise nefuthe leemodyuli zenzala yexesha elide, ngokubangela indoda ukuba ijongele phantsi kwaye inciphise umngcipheko obandakanyekayo (kusapho, ikhondo lomsebenzi kunye nodumo) kusukelo yolonwabo ngokwesondo. Yiyo ke loo nto indoda inokunyanzelwa ukuba ilandele le mihlali ngeendlela, kwabanye abantu, ebonakala ngathi ayinankathalo kwaye isisidenge. ("Kutheni emhlabeni ecinga ukuba angakwazi ukubaleka nayo?")

Ukuba uyindoda efuna ukunqanda ukonakalisa ubomi bakho ngenxa yokulandela amathuba amatsha okutshatisa, elona themba lakho kukuqonda ukuba xa la mathuba efika, iimodyuli zakho zobuchopho ziya kukwazi ngokuchanekileyo into abafuna ukuba uyenze, kwaye Unokuziva ngathi benza iinzame zobuqhawe zokuba uyenze. Banokudala bakubangele ukuba ungawuthathi kakubi umonakalo onokuthi ubangelwe zizenzo zakho kusapho nakwikhondo lomsebenzi, kunye nokunyanzelisa amathuba akho okubaleka okanye wokuxolelwa. Ukuthintela ukwenza into onokuzisola ngayo, qaphela iimodyuli zakho zokulinganisa ukuba ziyintoni na, kwaye wazi ukuba zizama ukukucenga ukuba uzenze. Olu lwazi luya kwandisa amandla akho okungawahoyi, kunye nokumamela ngakumbi kumalungu engqondo yakho avele ukuze akhonze ixesha elide.

(Inguqulelo yeli nqaku ivele kwikholamu yombhali "yoMthetho weNdalo" kwimagazini yebhanki Umgcini wehlabathi , Ihlobo kunye nomba ka-2011).

Ilungelo lokushicilela uMichael E. Ixabiso 2011. Onke amalungelo agciniwe.