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• Ukwabelana ngesondo kubalulekile
• Ukuzisola ngezeSondo Akutshintshi indlela yokuziphatha ngokwesondo kwixa elizayo

Makhe ndiqikelele-kwakungekho nto yokuqalisa ngesondo kunye neqabane lakho. Kwakungacaci nokuba ngubani lowo umenyiweyo kwaye ngubani lowo umemileyo. Kwenye indawo apha endleleni, nangona kunjalo, izinto zatshintsha. Ngoku, ukwenza isondo kwenzeke kuye kwaba ngumsebenzi. Uqala ukucinga ukuba kulula ukuba ungazami.

Ndiva eli bali rhoqo kwigumbi lam lonyango. Ezi zinto zimbini ziqhelekileyo ndizivayo kwizibini ezitshatileyo ezilwa nobomi bazo ngokwesondo:

Imeko yoku-1: Wayehlala esiza kuye ngalo lonke ixesha-kangangokuba kwakungafane kwenzeke ukuba enze umzamo. Yabasebenzela bobabini-wayekunandipha ukubethelela amandla akhe ezesondo, kwaye wamfumanisa eqinisekile kakhulu. Kuze izinto zitshintshe ngokumangalisayo.

Phantse ubusuku bonke, kwaye ngaphandle kokuqonda isizathu, wayeka ukuza kuye. Amaxesha amaninzi, olu tshintsho lwenzeka xa isibini sihamba kunye, sitshata, okanye sitshata. Ngequbuliso ufuna ukuba ngumamkeli wamandla ezesondo kwaye azive amandla akhe ezesondo kunye nomnqweno.

Ufuna ukuziva efunwa ngendlela ebabazekayo, ekhanukayo. Kodwa ulahlekile. Oku akuzange kube yindlela yakhe yesondo kunye naye, kwaye kubonakala ngathi yonke into ayenzayo ngokwesini, uyayala. Oku kubashiya bobabini baziva bengaqondwa kwaye bengonelisekanga. Xa befika eofisini yam, baba neentlobano zesini qho ngenyanga- ukuba banethamsanqa.

Imeko 2: Wayehlala eqala ngesondo. Njengolwalamano lwabo oludala, kunye nokwabelana ngesondo kwaba yinto enganiki mdla kangako, waqala ukwala izicelo zakhe zobuhlobo. Okwethutyana, bobabini babecinga ukuba le yayiyiblip engalindelekanga kwiscreen sabo se-radar yesini kwaye baqonda ukuba izinto ziya kuthi ekugqibeleni zibuyele esiqhelweni.

Emva kwethutyana, nangona kunjalo, wadinwa kukungabi namdla kwakhe, kwaye wayeka ukuqalisa. I-Porn ilula kakhulu. Ekuqaleni, khange baxoxe-wayezibuza ukuba ingaba uyakubona na oku. Ekugqibeleni, waphoswa yimizamo yakhe yokuqalisa kwaye wothuka.

Ngoku ufuna ukuba aqalise, kodwa oku kumenza azoyike. Yayingeyonto wayenokonwaba ukuyenza. Xa befika eofisini yam, akukho namnye uziva enqweneleka. Ukwabelana ngesondo kuhlala kumile.

Kwenzeka njani ukuba ukuqalisa ngokwesondo kube nzima kakhulu? Kubonakala ngathi ukuqala kokwenza uthando kufuneka kube lula. Niyathandana; nizinikele omnye komnye — yintoni ingxaki?

Amaxesha amaninzi ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, isini sishushu kangangokuba akukho mntu ucinga ngokwaluka. Kodwa njengokuba inkanuko eluhlaza yobudlelwane obutsha isifa, izibini kufuneka zenze ingxoxo ngokubonakalayo malunga nokwenza izinto zokwabelana ngesondo. Endaweni yokuba isondo sibe sisigqibo somzimba, esenzeka ngohlobo lwenkanuko, ulwaluko luba luphawu lwengqondo.

Ukusuka kwimbono yengqondo, kuhlala kukho isizathu sokuba ungaqali. Ukuncokola okungapheliyo kwengqondo kuyakuvuyela ukulinganisela — amaxesha amaninzi kuvela kwiindlela ezahlukeneyo. “Eli lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuba uqalise?” "Ngaba ufuna isondo ngoku, naye?" "Ngaba u-horny?" "Ndiyarhorho?" “Mhlawumbi kufuneka ndilinde de iphele inkqubo yakhe?” “Mhlawumbi kufuneka ndihlambe kuqala?” “Mhlawumbi lihambile ixesha — ndimelwe kukuvuka ekuseni… kodwa sekudlule iiveki ezimbini sikwenzile oko!”

Umceli mngeni wesibini linqanaba lokuba sesichengeni sokubandakanyeka ekuqaliseni isondo. Xa siqala, sinxibelelana kakhulu kunokudibana neliso. Sizibeka phaya, ngokungakhuselekanga. Siyavuma ukuba sinentswelo yobuqu kwaye sinqwenela iqabane lethu. Ukwala kweqabane lethu, njengokungabikho kokwaluka, kubonisa ukuba asinqweneleki ngokwesondo okanye asifunwa.

Ngale ndlela, ukwaliwa ngokwesondo-njengokungaqali ukuqala kwesondo-iba yinto engenanto apho sibonisa khona lonke uloyiko lwethu olunzulu. "Akandifuni kuba ndi _____ (gcwalisa okungabhalwanga: kubi / kuyothusa / akungqondo)." Ukuphinda ukwala ukuziphatha kwethu ngokwesini-le nto siyithandayo-kunika ubungqina bokuba yonke into esiyifumene ihlazo okanye engamkelekanga ngathi iyinyani.

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